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Single vs In a Relationship : Is It Really Worth Debating?

by - October 11, 2013

People all around me are now mostly in a relationship, and what i mean mostly is like literally EVERYONE is in it. As a high school student, walking through corridors seeing couples everyone is a usual sight. Same things happen in shopping malls and other public places. But, the problem is when they usually bug the single people with the question "When are you going to have a boyfriend or girlfriend?" , "Why aren't you in a relationship? You're not ugly right?" . And of course the singles will think about it all along. But let's peek into the relationship world, is it really worth debating? Is in a relationship really is better?

Disclaimer : Before i go on much further, i would like to tell you guys that this is only from what i know, my own opinion and experiences. I'm not judging anyone in this world, i'm just sharing a thought provoking personal opinion. Don't get at me kay? :)

Should I be single?
I'm currently single and only a spectator for my friends and people all around me. It's true that single means you're free and you don't have to do certain things to work on your relationship. I have a lot of guy friends and i'm free to hang out with them whenever i like.  You have a lot of time to meet new people, do new things, and have me-times ; drinking coffee, reading books, go on a shopping, and much more stuffs to explore. As all the people say it, single and ready to mingle. But, the negative side is the down feeling you get when people pressure you. You might feel jealous when you see a  couple do cute things together like holding hands and go on dinner dates. I feel this a lot when eating in a restaurant and the couple near my table look so happy with each other while i'm eating there like-alone. People also sometimes pick on you for not being in a relationship, and from their eyes you are completely miserable alone.  What really bugs me is when people try to pair you with another person that is not "right" for you and insists that you should be dating with her or him. Trying to pair is okay, but really insisting is NOT cool.

Should I be in a relationship?
Being in a relationship is a great thing. You feel that you've found the person that understands you and loves you so you feel really cared for and happy. There's a lot of things to do when you're in a relationship. Celebrate romantic holidays like Valentine's day, go on dates to interesting places, and share things with the one you love. I always love people who go on interesting dates, not just the same old candle light dinner. I once heard that someone goes on a laser tag game for a date, that's really really fun! You get to be competitive and be closer with your boyfriend or girlfriend. But as we all know, relationships aren't always happy. I heard a lot from my friends that their relationships are starting to get boring, and they complain a lot about their partner. The most one is about how their partner always bugs them by saying that they should tell him/her where they are every time, they should text or call really frequently or their partner would get angry, and the best one is about the jealousy. When you're in a relationship, you're completely bounded to your girlfriend or boyfriend so you might not have the opportunity to hang out with your friends freely. Especially when your friends with the opposite sex even though you know exactly that you are only just friends with him or her.  Clinginess also is one of the top problems from a relationship, i agree when people say that their partner should stay true and faithful to you. But if you need to keep an eye 24/7 on him or her or even restrain your partner to do things. That's the time for the trust issue bell to ring. 

The Verdict
Both being in a relationship and being single have their own pros and cons.  And also to mention that both are phases of life, not everyone is always single or in a relationship. But sometimes these two are not choices because love happens even when you're not expecting it. Just let it flow and see where it leads to. In my opinion, you don't need to search a new partner right away every time you broke up or even try too hard to get a boyfriend or girlfriend because it's not a thing that can be forced. There's also no need to insist people to be in a relationship, everyone has their own choice. Turns out single vs relationship is not debatable in any way. Just be happy in whatever state you are in and live life! Love more and pick the right one for you :) cheers! 

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21 Comments

  1. Well, if you're still in high school, it's okay, it's when you reach 25 and people start to getting married and all the single guys had recently break up from a long relationship ! Anyways, I wish I could be in couple!

    Kisses
    Hannah
    Elegantesque Blog

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  2. Good post! :)

    http://symbafashion.blogspot.com/2013/10/on-back.html

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  3. I know a lot of beautiful and really good, lovely girls who are single, and at the same time lots of ugly ones who are already even married. I consider Love to be a destiny, a lucky chance, and it doesn't really matter how beautiful, stylish, good-looking you are! You are absolutely right saying that both being in a relationship and being single have their own pros and cons, and being in relationship doesn't always mean being happy. Thank You for sharing such a nice post!
    Wish you a blessed day ahead!

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  4. what an inspiring post van! :D
    being single doesn't mean something is wrong with you ;;)

    cheer, michelle
    http://livedreammagic.blogspot.com/

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  5. I'd be single in my high school days because menurut gua pacaran sma itu belum cukup serius untuk dijalanin. Buat sma sih cukup cari temen cowo yg dket trus kinda clique with us. Because for me being in relationship itu bukan hal yg buat maen maen skedar gaya gayaan pacaran.



    Anywaaays about my post, i did the same thing with you when i went to korea and bawa barang yg casual, tp kmaren udh manage buat outfit post soalnya dikasi 1 koper sndiri :D next time ayoo travel bareng!

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  6. wihhh hahahaa this ones great van :D

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  7. lol, lagi galau ya? coz i can literally feel you hahaha. it's true that both single & in relationship have its own pros and cons but i think we should just appreciate every condition that we have right now :) thanks for sharing your thoughts girl!

    x
    sartob

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  8. Hello ♥ Single is not a bad thing. But, having a relationship is not a good thing :)
    Single kita bisa lebih express themselves :) Kalau kita having a relationship, harus siap untuk saling mengerti satu sama lain, belajar lebih dewasa *masa depan* & bukan ajang untuk gaya-gayaan.

    And if you already have a relationship, we also have to remember to limit :)

    natasyatata.blogspot.com

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  9. Hi!! such a great post!

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  10. good writing. :)
    single or in relationship, they are depends on the situation we face right? w\When we're not ready to be serious for a relationship, we'd better being single. Relationship is not a game, you have to finish what you started, no?

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  11. awesome post! i love your little conclusion to your whole topic, great advice girl!

    x

    ♥ Ellen
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  12. Hey b, you're beautiful!

    I really enjoy your blog, but it's such a shame I didn't find it earlier! Got a lot of catch up reading to do =)
    Can't wait to see more posts and pretty photos from your blog!

    Please come and visit my blog if you have time! I'd love to get to know my fellow bloggers!


    JYUKIMI xxx

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  13. True. Even ugly girls find love too! Would you like to follow each other on , Bloglovin and GFC? Please let me know if you're interested.

    Louisa Moje
    http://lapassionvoutee.blogspot.com/

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  14. I really enjoyed reading this, I can definitely relate. Relationships shouldn't be forced and in my experience they happen when you least expect it. xx

    www.lesdeuxfs.blogspot.com

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  15. I totally prefer being single, being in a relationship just takes so much away from the freedom I enjoy having. Sometimes it gets sad, and you feel like nobody likes you, but times pass and you get over it. Someday there will be someone who likes you! At least that's what I think.

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  16. Well, when I was in high school I thought that I needed a boyfriend. Now I'm 23, I don't have a boyfriend, I don't even care and I'm happier than ever! :)
    -xo, Milene from stylingjeans.blogspot.com

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  17. It all comes down to finding 'The One', if you ask me. What difference does it make if you're in a relationship with someone you don't even love just so people won't pressure you or you have someone to hold? Being single is great, you can thrive to be the best version of yourself though it's no guarantee that single people realise this once in a lifetime chance. In the end, being single or in a relationship (not married, though) is just a state of mind and social status. There are people who have romantic partners and 'mingle' like they're single and single people who get intimate with the opposite sex without acknowledging any change in their social status. What matters is your state of mind.

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  18. I have been in a relationship now for the past three years. Up until my current boyfriend I always felt relationships were very burdensome. Whether it was due to age, maturity, etc. relationships were just overall to much for me. But now my perspective is shifting because I am getting older and the simple the fact that I have been attracted to my current boyfriend since I was a freshman in high school. At any rate, being single or taken is very subjective and is unique to the individual and ones circumstance. There is never a right or wrong answer it just depends on what point an individual is at in their life

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